Why Mana Shim cops people’s digits while pursuing her dreams

Today is the Hawaiian hibiscus’, sunflower soul Melana Shim’s  birthday. Awhile back, we ventured out to the Oregon Coast to surf. Mana’s a ripper, and I’m a Grade A wannabe, novice. But I was stoked because Mana told me she’d give me some pointers once we got out in the water. We paddled together past the break, and less than a minute later,  Mana rode a wave into the shore like a princess galloping off into the distance. We never reunited in the water again, as Mana was fully engulfed in catching the biggest breaks, and I couldn’t keep up with Mana’s ravenous paddling. No hard feelings though, I became best buds with the whitewash.

Three and a half hours later, Mana came running out of the water, with a jack-o-lantern sized smile on her face. She apologized for losing track of time and said she invited some new friends over for a bonfire. I asked how they were going to come over. She pointed to her red board. The person’s phone number was etched into the front of it with wax.

Classic Mana, always living for connection. The people came over, and we indeed had wonderful conversation amongst a bonfire. This type of scenario is standard protocol for Mana, who claims she can tell from the first few minutes of interaction if she’ll vibe with the person.

Playing sports competitively, it’s so easy to get caught up in grinding and doing whatever it takes to reach our dreams. But, once our body breaks down or we decide we want to pursue other passions, we will only be left with the memories. And the ones we tend to remember, are the ones with strong emotional ties. Mostly involving other humans. And sometimes teammate’s dogs (shoutout to Christine’s Sinclairs dog, Charlie. Such a stud).

A few weeks ago, Mana made the choice to leave Thorns FC to pursue a opportunity to play in Sweden. This decision is difficult for any player, but especially for someone who cherishes relationships as much as Mana. But sometimes you gotta do the scary thing and take a leap of faith. In conjunction with chasing our dreams, we always have the choice to slow down and take in the in the sunflowers, the waves, the people.

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EP 32- Mana Shim- on desserts, death and befriending strangers

Professional soccer player Mana Shim has a go with the flow attitude and has relied on her intuition her entire life. At 15 years old, the Hawaiian native left surfing, beaches, and her family behind, and moved to Arizona with the hope of playing college soccer at a Division One school one day.

Mana’s decision paid off, and she was recruited by her dream school, Santa Clara University. After college, Mana entered the NWSL draft, but did not get selected by any teams. She opted to tryout for the Portland Thorns, because it was the cheapest flight and the team was talented.

Mana balled out, made the team, and has been with the Portland Thorns for 5 consecutive years.

In this interview, we start out talking light about desserts, and then dive deep (in typical Mana fashion)into the topics of fear, anxiety, and death.

We touch upon:

-Mana’s uncanny ability to befriend strangers

-the mental state that allows Mana to play her best soccer

-why Mana doesn’t share her goals with people (except her therapist)

-the day Mana’s dad passed away, and why it was one of the most beautiful moments of her life

-why suffering is necessary to live a fulfilled life

-how to become a more trustworthy person via what Brene Brown calls  B.R.A.V.I.N.G

-and of course, we talk about surfing, and the best wave Mana has ever ridden.

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Arrow Liver-Professional Soccer Player, Mana Shim

A couple weeks ago, Mana and I scheduled a walk in Forest Park. We met at the nearby grocery deli to snarf down a quick bite before hitting the trails. When we sat down to eat, a woman strolled by with flowers in one hand, and the leash to her golden retriever in the other. Mana asked the dog’s name and then the woman’s, next where she got the flowers, and who was to be the recipient.  Forty minutes later we were sharing our table with a new friend; single, 70 year-old -who thinks she looks older than 70 years old- Debra,  from New York,  recent Portland home-owner, who found the flowers on the sidewalk and might put them in a vase on her bedside table.

Befriending strangers is standard daily behavior for Mana.

She lives for human connection and has this way of conversing, where I swear,  her eyes seep through your skin and into your soul. When you talk, she listens. And when she talks, it’s like your family.

Because that’s what it was like growing up in her hometown  Honolulu, Hawaii. She comes from a community with an untethered togetherness. And it goes even deeper than that. Mana inherited this compassion from the most influential person in her life, her father, Sri. As a child Mana watched with admiration as her dad treated his homeless surfer buddies with equal amounts of respect and enthusiasm as his multi-millionaire friends.

Although her dad recently passed, Mana carries Sri’s live-in-the-moment, follow-your-heart energy with her in everything she does.

Whether she’s scoring goals with the Portland Thorns,  ripping waves on the coast, or befriending passerbys on the street, she lives with her heart. Everything else-the Forest Park walks and such-can wait.

Mana is an Arrow Liver.

Name: Mana Shim

Age:  24

Hometown: Honolulu, Hawaii

Profession: Professional Soccer Player

Years playing: 20 years playing, 4 years professionally

What was your first thought when you woke up this morning?

Check the surf. There was a big wave contest, I wanted to watch.  They already surfed the final so I missed it. It’s okay though, I don’t follow the big waves tour as much as I do the regular tour.

What is your morning routine?

Wake up, and put on whatever clothes are most accessible and walk Kona (her dog),  get home have some tea, make some oatmeal, read a little bit, feed the dog, cuddles on the couch with Maru (her girlfriend), then I’m off.

What did you love most about where you grew up?

The whole place. The mountains. The ocean. The people. I feel connected to the land and the place. I grew up feeling that these are my roots and these will always be my roots.

What is the best advice you’ve ever been given?

Be here now. And another one, its a Hawaiian ‘ōlelo no’eau: Mai huli ke kua i ke kai….It means never turn your back on the ocean

Who is your definition of successful? 

My dad for sure. He died with $50 dollars in the bank, no significant materials to his name. He just followed his heart and lived his passion and treated everyone equally with loving kindness.

Why do you do what you do?

I do what I do because I love human connection and magical moments. 

Are you where you thought you would be at age 24?

Sure. Ya. In some ways ya.

How are you different than the average?

I am much more impulsive. And I approach life through an existential framework. And I think those are the only two things that separate me apart. Oh and I am not afraid to talk to people. Talking to people makes me so happy.

What habit contributes the most to your success? 

My habit to follow whatever makes my heart sing. I’m happy when I’m doing something that I really enjoy.  For instance, learning Spanish. In the moment I am learning, I am driven because I just really enjoy it. It makes the most sense to do it that way.

To me its the little things. If I choose to go surfing, it’s because I am so excited. I catch some waves and that’s a successful day.

How do you spend your free time?

Reading, walking in Forest Park, watching surfing, studying spanish.

What has been your biggest setback?  

I don’t really see things as setbacks.  It makes me think of life as a line that goes back and forward. I see it more of (she is making a circular motion with her hands) , theres not anything that can happen that can set you back. I also think that suffering is the greatest teacher. It’s all happening the way its supposed to happen. I don’t really set goals. I’m not a goal setter.

What has been your most rewarding accomplishment?

Winning the 2013 NWSL championship because my dad flew out and surprised me. I got to share it with him.

Another time I think of, was when I was a kid surfing. There was this guy, Evan, who was a really good surfer. And I caught this incredible wave, and it was backhand whip, and I free fell and dropped and landed it. And that was, to this day, the best turn of my life. And I was beaming.  I was by myself, and then Evan was like that was sick!! I literally thought you were Carissa (a professional women’s surfer) out there. A compliment from someone like that, who in my eyes is such a great surfer. I was on cloud nine.

What do you wish you knew as a kid? 

That my dad was going to die when I was 24, because I would never have left his side. Literally. Hence my existential view on life. I would have surfed with him every day of my life. I just had this expectation that he was the one who was invincible. And that he was going to be the grandfather to my kids and meet them and take care of them.

What are your other passions?

I like seeing new places, but I don’t like the en route part, the actual flying,. I love sitting in nature, watching the sunrise and the sunset. I really love having someone to look after and be responsible for. I didn’t know that about myself, but having Kona, he keeps me in check, I need to always be there for him. He relies on me. I like feeding him, taking care of him, giving him love, making sure he’s okay. I also love runners high. I don’t like the first three or four miles before, but after that,  I’m like yeah this is straight bliss.

What’s your dream meal? 

Hawaiian Food. lau lau, kalua pig, poi, and lomi salmon.

Who are three people you’d ask to dine with you?

Probably my two sisters and my mom. At this point.

If you could trade lives with one person for an entire day who would it be?

Carissa Moore, just so I could surf like her.

If you could only keep five possessions what would they be?

A surf board, a pair of clothes to keep me warm,  like shoes short, shirt, and a jacket. And my dad’s hydroflask,  I need to have water for sure.

What skill would you like to learn and why? 

Probably hit that free kick that Messi hit in the Copa America.